If our desire is to become visionary, joyful, nonjudgemental, we can’t get there with the idea that events, thoughts, emotions, people are some how holding us back. In Texas we have a simulated hell. I’m not referring to our 115 degree Augusts, I’m referring to I-35. Two days before Thanksgiving I jumped on the Interstate that carries 80% of Texans from one place to the other only to find it completely closed down for a few miles somewhere between Temple and Waco. All 400 billion of us had to exit the highway and travel down the access road for those few dreadful miles. Those four to six miles took one full hour to travel. I found myself saying, “I just can’t get there from here.”
The first time I heard that phrase was in the countryside south of Mexico City. My friends and I were trying to get from one town to another. We stopped to ask an older gentlemen for directions. He said, “You can’t get there from here.” We laughed and laughed at the idea that one place was not accessible to the other. As I recalled that story and contemplated that idea I began to see that while it might not apply geographically, it does apply to our minds.
I was standing in a hospital yesterday and heard some family members trying to get into ICU say, “Those people never open this door for us.” You can hear the victim mentality they were carrying. The perspective that something else is holding me back leaves me incapable of taking action. If you are staring out the window wishing for a way to escape or you feel like in this particular situation you lose, you may be operating from a victim mentality. When we refuse to believe that something or someone else is in our way, we will take some initiative and look for other options.
Pay attention this week to soundbites that expose this victim ideology. The more aware of it you become, the more you will be able to recognize it in yourself. When you find yourself stuck, ask: "What are three other options?" Refuse to settle for the idea that something or someone is responsible for where you are. Once you shed the victim mentality, you can definitely get there from here!