People feel stuck — want something more. They even see a vague path to get there (wherever there is?) but something holds them tight to where they are.
I recently changed my morning routine in order to grab three uninterrupted hours — moments to work on thought projects before the world awakes. What a glorious idea! Did I mention, I’m not a morning person? Day One of this new routine, I awoke at 5:00, did great work, went back to bed at 7:30. I have never found morning warm and fuzzy. The benefits that come from these hours of solitude are clear. I’ve already experienced great progress as a result of this change in my routine. Unfortunately, my body begins to rebel loudly at about 5:00 or 6:00 in the evening. The rebellion is so intense that daily I consider going back to my former routine. Why? Why would I go back when I’m seeing good results? Shockingly, it takes every ounce of strength to not go back.
We are creatures of habit. Routines become automatic. Our brain creates neural pathways from repetitive thoughts and behavior in order to make life easier. Retraining our brain requires real work, work that is uncomfortable. Psychologist tell us that our reaction to change starts with denial, moves to anger, crosses over to confusion, then dips into depression before it feels like a crisis. After all that we then move into acceptance, followed by new confidence. If there are that many stages before we arrive at acceptance, no wonder change only comes with intentionality. I want the benefits of the change without disruption.
While we are creatures of habit, we are also creatures of comfort. It’s just plain uncomfortable to change something you’ve done for years. Discomfort is typically a signal to retreat, go back, change course. Like me, you may have to decide that you are willing to be uncomfortable to have the results that you want.
What are you doing to get un-stuck?