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Watch Me Dance

A friend of mine loves to say, “I am women, watch me dance.”  It’s her personal twist on the old slogan, “I am women, hear me roar.”  She loves to dance and considers it part of her self-care regiment.  Last week, I heard Lee Ann Womack’s song, “I Hope You Dance for the billionth time. I thought of my friend and all the difficulty she’s been through in her childhood, in her tour of Iraq, in her health battle . . . It dawned on me that she forced herself to dance at times when it would have been so much easier to quit dancing.

Twenty plus years ago, my mother and I were walking down the sidewalk of an outdoor shopping mall with my two-year old when a car blaring some serious hip hop on the radio drove by slowly.  Of course, the two-year old started to dance.  My mother’s response was sheer horror.  She thought he was having a seizure. This is a true story! Children drop everything and just dance for no good reason — even when others don’t recognize it as the best response.

The first line of Womack’s song, “I hope you never lose your sense of wonder . . .” and a later verse, “I hope you still feel small when you stand beside the ocean. . .”  encourage us to keep that child-like quality of awe.  Amazement and curiosity drive children to explore and uncover everything from ants on a piece of bark to buttons on a shirt.  If you find that you aren’t marveling at things anymore, maybe your world has become too small.  (Let me say that another way, if all you can think about is yourself, your world is too small.)

Dancing is simply a choice. It's not limited to the circumstances or a specific event. You make a mental decision to dance every day.  “When you get the choice to sit it out or dance.  I hope you dance.”  Having choices is a huge liberator.  It moves us from passively letting life happen to us to actively designing our own life.  Sure, there are things we can’t control but we can control whether we dance or sit this one out.  

What are you sitting out of today?  Where do you need to dance?

Experiment with me this week.  When you feel down and out, crank up the music and dance.  When you feel alone, get up and dance.  When things are frustrating, go ahead and bust a move. If there is something to celebrate, dance.  After you try it for a week, tell me what it felt like to choose to dance.  



All of us love a superhero, complete with a cape and the capacity to fly! We all want superheroes in our lives or superhero powers of our own.  I would definitely enjoy flying but if I had to be more realistic, I wouldn’t be opposed to hearing conversation on the next continent. (How’s that for realistic?)  Monday night I was oh-ver-ly excited to watch the first episode in the new Supergirl series on CBS.  But then, I guess most little girls were.

Early in the episode, Kara aka Supergirl was discussing the demise of the newspaper with her boss.  Kara was deeply concerned about her friends and colleagues at the paper being laid off.  Her boss met this concern with a flippant reply, “Go find me a hero,”  basically indicating that there was NO ONE to save the day.  And the entire time I’m sitting on my couch saying, “She is the hero!”  

The Supergirl icon is a registered Trademark of DC Comics.

The Supergirl icon is a registered Trademark of DC Comics.

This whole scene made me wonder how many times I’ve been looking for someone to take action, when all along I was the one who needed to act.  Supergirl brings something unique and valuable to her community but she had been repeatedly told not to step out there; not to use her talents; not to expose herself.  “It’s just not safe,” her sister told her. How often have you believed the lie that you can’t be who you are made to be?  

Today is a good day to reverse that thinking.  Who are you made to be?  Examine what you bring to the table.  Understand your own mix of abilities.  Notice where your efforts bring results.  Then begin to construct your life so that you are doing more of what you're made for.  
Saving people, that's what Superheroes are born to do. After her first attempt at saving people Kara tells her colleague, “Most of my life I’ve run from it, but last night I embraced it.”  What were you born to do?  What is holding you back?  How would your community benefit if you just embraced it?

The biggest risk is never taking any!” ~Superman