Our back porch is rich with geckos.  If they are on the tree trunk they are a tan color, if they are on the green bush they are green. They rapidly adapt to their environment.  They often lose their tail when they need to escape quickly.  That loss doesn’t seem to create a slow down for them.  Adaptability is their middle name.

Our society loves things that are adaptable.  Standing desks are the greatest invention ever.  However, most of us prefer the adjustable ones, where you can sit or stand depending on the need at the moment.  Every driver’s seat is equipped with the ability to move it forward and back. Our ironing boards are adjustable.  Our washing machines adjust to the size of the load.  Even our suitcases have an extra zipper that adjust to shoving in a little more.  If we were being honest, and we won’t be, we would say we prefer our pants to be adjustable too.  We just have this preference for all things adjustable.  Even people.  People who are flexible are easier to work with and live with.  Resilience or adaptability is really a necessity for all of us.  When life throws us a curve ball (I’ve been watching the World Series), adapt.  

Very little in my life, okay, I’ll be brutally honest, nothing in my life has gone as I expected it.  And if I’d had no elasticity in my response to the unexpected, I’d be beyond shattered.  Resilience is the ability to recovery quickly from difficult conditions.  It’s just like elastic! (Come on, you know you’ve put elastic in some difficult conditions.)

To build resilience, avoid seeing crises as insurmountable problems.  Highly stressful events happen.  That won’t change.  How you respond to these events can.  Take decisive actions.  Rather than detach from problems and stressors, act.  Keep things in perspective.  In the middle of painful circumstances, try to keep a long-term perspective. Take care of yourself.  Taking care of yourself helps to keep your mind, body, spirit ready to deal with any situation that requires resilience.  

After 20 years of marriage and 5 children, Ninfa Rodriquez's husband died and she struggled to keep their business alive.  Rather than give up, she remodeled part of their wholesale factory into a restaurant.  A week after the remodel fire broke out.  She persevered.  As her restaurant gained popularity, she opened a second.  Later she franchised the Ninfa name, however, her rapid expansion required lots of cash.  She was not skilled in financial transactions and eventually declared bankruptcy and sold the chain. Ninfa was more interested in focusing on her blessing than cursing her failures. She coupled her vast knowledge of customer satisfaction and quality Mexican food with her new knowledge of operating with minimal debt and opened a new restaurant under a different name.  Ninfa’s resilience kept her moving forward.

How are you building resilience into your life?