I’m currently completing a course with Strategic Intervention, a training group for innovative coaching techniques. Several of the strategies involve using your imagination. The point is to activate your creativity so that you can resolve the conflict within you in a completely different way than you have in your past. SI calls these Pretend Strategies.
This week when I heard Donald Miller of Story Brand start a sentence with the word “pretend,” I took notice. He said, “Pretend the world is conspiring to make you successful.” Much of the time we take on the role of the victim embracing the idea that this is happening TO us — some how we’ve become “the mark.” We literally decided this in our mind — pretended it. Because I suspect you are not convinced, let me give you a few examples. When you walked into the coffee shop and the women in the far corner started laughing, you pretended it was about you. But as you got closer to them, you realized they were watching a video on someone’s iPad. When you walked out of the public bathroom and the man at the counter was staring at you, you pretended he was judging you. As you approached him, you realized he was looking at an employee behind you. We are expert pretenders. If we can pretend we are the victim, we can just as easily pretend something else.
If “the world is conspiring to make us successful,” what would our reaction be when things don’t go as planned? My car battery was dead when I wanted to leave for an appointment. If the world is conspiring to make me successful, in other words, I’m not the victim here, then I get to practice a new skill. I even get to miss the slow down at I20 and 287 because I’ll be coming up on that intersection later than I planned. Deciding we are not the victim and instead all things are coming together for our good, changes how we experience absolutely everything.
Go ahead. Give it a try.